Have you ever tried to change the behaviour of a loved one? I trust they thanked you with a heart overflowing with gratitude and immediately changed their ways! If only life were so simple… It’s so funny how the mind works: On a deep level you want to be loved for who you are. Then…
Have you ever gotten mad at someone and lost your peace of mind in the process? It happened to me recently and I understand how easily you can react and stay stuck in anger, irritation or resentment. Please note I’m not saying you should never feel anger, irritation or resentment; that would be impossible! However,…
You have probably already encountered your fair share of self-critical thoughts. It may look like: “I’m not attractive enough”, “I’m a bad parent” or even “I’m a failure”. The purpose of this post is to help you become more aware of self-critical thoughts and how to diffuse their sabotaging power. Self-critical thoughts – when believed…
The buzz of the new year festivities has passed and the reality and pressure of responsibility and demands are setting in. You may already feel yourself being triggered by people or events: you may have lashed out at someone in irritation, found yourself having self-critical thoughts or feeling shame about something that happened to you….
Welcome to the great undoing. The desert will find you. It arrives on its own time despite your fantasies of how life should play out. Surrender to the inevitable. Beware it will strip you of what is not you. Of what is serving you no more. Of everything, you don’t need. Away from all your…
I don’t believe in such a thing as life hacks. What I’ve seen in my clients and my own life is that what matters most has no shortcuts. You have to live and be present for all the ups and downs of life to develop depth and substance. That said learning to befriend your inner…
Dear Courageous one, Today you are invited to start practising unconditional kindness and acceptance towards yourself as a way of life. Consider that this is the greatest gift you can give yourself for your inner well-being. I say this is the ultimate love because not only will it benefit you, but also everyone else in…
Who or what determines if you are worthy? On what grounds and according to whose criteria? Think about this for a moment… Important to notice here that the moment you start measuring your worth you start entering the domain of subjective storytelling. In essence, whether you think you are worthy or not is just a story…
How did 2019 serve the story of your life? What plot are you choosing for 2020? I’m sure you’ve been through quite a variety of pleasant and unpleasant experiences this past year! In this post, I support you to get the lessons out of 2019 and clarity for framing your 2020 plot. Closing the 2019…
In mindfulness circles, the word more kind of has a bad reputation. This I regard as quite appropriate in our consumerist society where most people unconsciously measure their own worth against their ability to acquire more wealth and/or material possessions. I just celebrated my 39th birthday and want to focus on the positive side of more: I’m…
