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What is the Enneagram personality system?
In a nutshell, the Enneagram is a dynamic personality system that offers a robust sensemaking framework for your inner world. On the one hand, it is a mirror for self-awareness and on the other hand it also offers a map for personal growth. With this self-knowledge, you are empowered to cultivate inner well-being rather than inner strain. This shift can positively impact your career, relationships and personal well-being.
Where most personality assessments measure behaviour, the Enneagram represents 9 distinct motivational drives of which one is the drive behind all your habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and doing. You were born with this drive, which determines how your brain views and interprets reality.
The 9 Enneagram motivational drives
Enneagram 1 – Strict Perfectionist: The drive to be a good person who does what is right (avoid making mistakes & being wrong)
Enneagram 2 – Considerate helper: The drive to help others (avoid own hurts & needs)
Enneagram 3 – Competitive achiever: The drive to be successful and win (avoid failure at all costs)
Enneagram 4 – Intense Creative: The drive to be unique & significant (avoid the mundane)
Enneagram 5 – Quiet Specialist: The drive to understand and be knowledgeable (avoid not knowing or understanding)
Enneagram 6 – Loyal Sceptic: The drive for safety and certainty (avoid risk, uncertainty & conflict with authority)
Enneagram 7 – Enthusiastic Visionary: The drive for pleasure & having exciting options (avoid discomfort, pain & boredom)
Enneagram 8 – Active Controller: The drive to be strong and in control (avoid weakness & vulnerability)
Enneagram 9 – Adaptive Peacemaker: The drive to maintain harmony (avoid conflict & their own agenda)
Your Enneagram type: A map from inner strain to inner well-being
Consider that you can only manage what you are aware of. If you are not aware of your Enneagram motivational drive, the default result can be experiencing strain, dissatisfaction or suffering in various areas of your life. Why is this so? Each drive is focused on striving after certain conditions and avoiding others. These drives with their preferences and aversions are not right or wrong. They are just unconscious and create imbalances in your life. To the extent you are attached to your life only playing out according to the likes and dislikes of your motivational drive, you unconsciously create a mental prison that can lead to strain, dissatisfaction or suffering.
The Enneagram thus empowers you with the self-awareness to consciously manage your patterns of thinking feeling and doing to transform the quality of your life.
Consciously cultivate inner well-being
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Carl Jung
Although you might have behaviour from all 9 Enneagram drives, only one of them describes the primary motivational drive behind all your habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and doing. This is referred to as your Enneagram type and it unconsciously directs your life.
On the one hand, the dominant patterns in your life contain incredible strengths that represent the gift you bring to the world. On the other hand, this drive tends to throw you off balance and can sabotage your inner well-being. If you are thus not aware of your patterns, it will cause strain and dissatisfaction over time. Please note these personality patterns aren’t wrong or bad, they are just unconscious. As an adult, these patterns don’t bring fulfilment and block your capacity to give and receive love.
Once you are mindful of these sabotaging patterns, you can start to no longer identify with them. The Enneagram also provides a map for growth and transformation. You are thus empowered to consciously respond in ways to counter your sabotaging patterns, while consciously cultivating your inner well-being and thriving.
Enneagram Podcast (click the play button below)
Renier discusses the Enneagram as a transformative tool for relationship well-being.